We always find a to compare things, people, events, clothes, circumstances, pain; the thing is most comparisons aren’t real.   Most comparisons wouldn’t measure up to the scientific methods or mathematical methods for comparison.  The first thing in order for a comparison to be real is that the things compared should be comparable.  Too often we compare oranges to apples, both are fruit but they differ in color, taste, origin, and the list continues that comparing the two isn’t smart.

This holds true for so many things that we as people tend to compare, men to other men, women to other women, one child to another child, and the list could go on for days.  The problem is when we make the comparisons often we do it ignorantly without ever really realizing the results and/or potential damage.  Comparing one woman to another is at best just simple ignorance and at least it is degrading.  So many women are starving their body, ruining their self-confidence because she is attempting to live up to a standard set by random arbitrary people and thoughts or the standards of people who feel the need to measure people against one another.  Ultimately it is the box mentality at work and the workings of a small mind that allows one to feel the need to compare people to other people all the time.

In a competition, comparisons are measured by a point system through categories and the like and that is healthy competition where people enter knowing that he or she will be judged, there are rules, there is preparation time and everything is disclosed.  Unhealthy comparisons come out of the blue, they are never fair nor just, most of the time a person never knows that he or she is being compared and because the common thread between the two is often thin; it is senseless and counterproductive.

Thin, fat, thick, short, shorter, long hair, pretty hair, good hair, no hair, gray hair, old, young, prettier, plain, moderate, built, the terms could go on and on, comparing how men look, how women look, what makes a good man, what makes a good woman; whose better and whose worse; when in truth these are just descriptions and until the arbitrary descriptions are matched to real people with personalities, with thoughts, ideas, concepts and character there is nothing.

The truth is too often we compare people by one thread, one common trait and the result is far from healthy.  Not all things need to be compared, not all people need to be compared; it is as if someone told us that there are only two choices for everything and that’s simply not so; you can like Dr. Martin L. King, Jr. and Malcolm X no need to just pick one; you can like both black and white people, you can like apples just as much as oranges, you can like Soul as and Pop Music.  There is a time for taking stands and making choices, too often we waste them on the wrong things, the wrong people .

If you must compare, compare prices so you can save money, compare savings from week to week, compare individual results, growth and life lessons but make healthy comparisons those things which make us better and not bitter.