Correcting Habitual Actions to Nurture Great Expectations!
I wrote a post awhile back on this blog about being the “Queen of questions”. Honestly, the things I do are things I am passionate about! When I speak my thoughts, my ideas, I’m extremely powerful, passionate, convincing because it is my intent, my thought, my motive to never speak unless I’m sure; to not lead unless I’m led. I say that, because even in business, my LLC is called the “Queen ‘B’ of doing Business Better”, and God speaks to me and through me in acronyms. I told my husband that I will be known as the ‘Queen of acronyms’. Acronyms are memorable and when they have a great meaning can live forever. Today, we will talk about change. I’m a writer and this acronym will be presented again in my moments of mediation devotional as well but as I’ve stated above, give you a different meaning and perspective.
The daughter of a philosopher, that’s what I call my Dad. He wouldn’t describe himself that way, but that’s just one of the adjectives I would use for him. My mother, is the encourager and again, one word of many to describe her! As the daughter of that combination, I feel God speaks to me very colorful, memorable and passionately. Neither of my parents were soft spoken nor unrememberable and neither am I. Having said that, through the encounters of life, I’ve been blessed to be transparent, open and verbal about the things I learned, am learning and hope to gain.
CHANGE is just one of the many acronyms, you will hear from me if you follow any of my writings. Whether it be a book, devotional, blog, business blog, moment of mediation, tweet or Facebook post; the goal is to challenge, inspire, encourage, provoke thought and initiate change.
Before I heard, the message my Pastor preached about being a Change Agent, I have been one. I wasn’t always comfortable with that status because to initiate and encourage change means to be outspoken, standing out in the crowd, having all the attention on you, to take a chance, the risk of being outcast, the risk of trouble, being laughed at or embarrassed and yes, being rejected. I notice that when I was younger, I was far less concerned with the latter parts of being a change agent, like ‘what people thought’. It wasn’t until I got older and had some falls/tumbles in life, that the thought of people began to matter. You know the kind of fall from which we feel we cannot recover? Trying to live in the shadows didn’t work well for me for obvious reasons and even then, I was changing the ideas, thoughts and patterns of others from behind the scenes while they took credit for work and thoughts that were not their own.
CHANGE! So much must be shared, said, thought, discussed about this even without my acronym. Do you know how many people seek change but do not want it? Do you know how often this word is used, discussed and thrown around frivolously? You can’t imagine the unrealistic expectations that accompany this word (I had some of my own about and for myself, personally)? CHANGE is a gift, change is required to live. Change is diverse in meaning depending on the viewer of it, change can be radical, subtly, variable and unmeasurable. CHANGE! Change is so diverse that politically that many of the same people voted for #45 that voted for President Obama both terms prior. CHANGE!
As an agent of change, I’m a reflective person. The end of the year me, beginning in the last quarter of the year (that’s the accountant in me) is spent reflecting on what has and has not being accomplished. Going deeper, I review the people, issues, things around me that prohibited, contributed or distracted me from reaching goals, while accessing the time I have left in the year to really make a positive impact on the year to come. REAL CHANGE, as real as it can get begins with knowing realistically, accepting and understanding where you are: in life, as it relates to your goals n dreams, with people, finances, your social circle and spiritually. You cannot CHANGE or affect the future if you don’t understand the past! Notice I said understand the past, that’s another topic, book, discussion for later (UNDERSTANDING IS EVERYTHING!).
Without reflection, one will continue to behave, respond, move, conduct business, engage with one another in the same manner he or she has done in the past. It’s not until you are exposed that what you are doing could be ineffective or that your actions are producing the results you least desire; that one will even consider the notion of change. I am ashamed of how many things I’ve endorsed, promoted, encouraged in my past that I now fully understand were not only ignorant but caused me some of my greatest disappointments in life! Reflection of myself (not others, aka known as excuses and placing blame) allowed me to review my actions, correct behavioral patterns or should I say, identify behavioral patterns that weren’t conducive. Some people reflect and find people to blame their shortcomings and downfalls; don’t get me wrong, your crowd matters but nothing can be the entire fault of another person, people can only do what you allow. Reflection can and will reveal people that aren’t conducive for you and your future, but it again your future, your success is based on your actions! This acronym for change helps one examine just that, your actions and your patterns.
So, as I debut my original acronym for the word CHANGE, post 1 of many more to come; I hope it helps you to identify patterns, behaviors, ideas, concepts and things you can change to get the desired results you seek in 2018.
Queen of Questions
Queen of Acronyms
Queen “B” of doing Business Better