Have you ever believed in something or someone and was later wrong? Have you ever invested into people so much, gave so much and at the end of the relationship found out that there was nothing left for you? Have you ever been wronged and felt the one who wronged you, got off? Have you ever done the things you thought were right and felt that somehow you were still getting the short end of the stick? Have you ever given your all to something and it didn’t give it back to you? I’m sure many of us have experienced at least one of these questions. You know where you have given your all, have done the things you felt were right and were wrong. The worst part is that when you are doing something that you think is right, when do you find out it’s not?!
Okay, let’s put this in context. If you invested into a person or loved someone and did the things you thought would make them happy only to find out, it wasn’t enough or it wasn’t the right thing. How would you feel? I’ll tell you, mad, betrayed, upset, hurt, belittled and defeated; that’s just to name a few of the emotions. Think of it like this, you cannot reap in places you haven’t sown. You cannot get a check from the Burger King Company if you are employed at McDonalds. If you put more time in at work, then you can’t expect your family to be excited or just waiting on you at home. Of course any man or woman who works to provide for his or her family would disagree and I get that point, to a degree…..however, where your time and energy goes so too shall your harvest.
Sowing and reaping is a principle! It will stand the test of time, the test of people, the test of product. It doesn’t matter what scenario you describe you can use the principle of sowing and reaping to determine where, how great and how valuable a harvest could become or not become. It’s a principle and not a cliché . The thing is most people tend to do things assuming, hoping and thinking that it will yield a certain return without testing along the way.
A thing can begin one way, and in the process of time, energy, change, seasons, growth, obstacles; the need and desires that were in the beginning have shifted. If a person remains with the original plan for the sake of keeping the plan, all the work, the sowing will be in vain because what he or she hopes to reap will not be the same. Let me give you an example. Since we are using the terms, ‘sowing and reaping’, let’s use crops. A farmer can begin or set out to plow the land for one crop and based on weather, climate, changes in the weather or seasons, realize that the original plan, while it was good at the time may require twerking. Okay, first let me say this is a simplistic so don’t go too far and miss the point. In the example, if the farmer had not cultivated or revisited his plan, meaning continued researching, continued watching weather reports, continued reviewing the plan; he or she would have missed the signs that told him or her that the original plan should be aborted.
Relationships are the same way. Two people begin in one manner but hopefully, prayerfully, both parties will grow. Without revisiting with one another, without talking and making sure along the way that the needs of each partner are met, it is easy for one to outgrow the other person and separation enters. It is possible to sow in a place for the right reason and still not reap the harvest one desired. It’s possible to sow too long, too much, too often and then turn for help, comfort in a place that hasn’t been cultivated. At that point, one could feel isolated and lonely. However, expecting withdrawals from places where you have ceased to deposit is unrealistic.
What are you saying? Simply in 2018, be mindful into the places where you sow! Sowing is equivalent to planting. Planting is to give people time, energy, space, attention, emotions, affection; when you give it all in one area in one place you cannot expect to look to another place to reap!
- Parents we must have jobs to pay the bills, however the jobs do not have to have us all the time!
- If you work, work while you are at work and stop allowing pressures and attempts to please and prove to others; make you take work home!
- Learn to unwind, disengage from work on the way home so that when you get home you can sow into your family!
- Sowing is continually for hours. BALANCE! Balance work and Balance Family. Too often we balance family more than we do work but in the end, when the times are critical it is family we want. Do not need help or comfort or expect a harvest in places you have neglected! It will not be there and at that point you can blame no one.
- Sow into yourself! NO not buy yourself things, sow into you! Never lose the essence of who you are! Sow value into you by what you say to yourself, how you see yourself. Strengthen your strengths and starve your weaknesses.
- EVALUATE! EVALUATE! EVALUATE! We need to be scientists of our own lives! Stop going through the motions, having the same arguments without reflecting on how, why and what causes them! UUGh! We quote “doing the same thing expecting different results is insanity” and yet we in our actions, we make no adjustments. WHY? Because we tend to not evaluate what happened! Usually, we remember how and why someone made us mad but fail to see how our language, tone, timing or any other emotions affected what or how the other person felt. We tend to keep our same habits but want different results! HELLO! Habits aren’t principles! They can change and habits will not stand the test of time, etc… because if a habit is killing us, we will and must change or stop it!
EVALUATE! THINK! REVISIT!
If you aren’t sowing the harvest you expect, go back and trace your seeds!