I’ve said it before words are the ultimate boomerang.  Words have power.  Once spoken they take on life in the speaker as well as the hearer.  Words linger, hang around, shape, alter, confirm, raise doubt, build confidence or ignite fear; the power of words are seen in the actions taken by people.  So are we chasing the words we say or are the words spoken shaping our lives?  CONFUSED?

How many times have you uttered words like: “if it were me, I wouldn’t”, “I will never”, “I wouldn’t do this”, “it couldn’t be me”, “if it were up to me”, “there’s no why I could” and the variations are endless.  The point is as people we speak over our life at different points and times.  Too often the words we speak in the future are from the negative point of view determining what we will not do before it even occurs.  Of course our motives in speaking aren’t to be negative but to set boundaries, determine limits, protect oneself from potential hurts and disappointments.  Speaking these statements seems harmless, simple and very natural.  It is very natural.  Equally natural is making those statements and learning later that you don’t know what you will do until you’re in that situation.

HA! Which leads to the question are you chasing your words?  Many people have made future decisions based on a past statement, a statement that really didn’t have merit because it lacked experience.  Yet the statement was made and to not honor one’s word would be detrimental right?  This may sound simplistic but you’d be surprise at the number of people who vacate marriages because they said they would never; the people who ended friendships because they said, they would never; (you get the picture).  Making current decisions from past statements just to save face is never good.  Older people will tell you all the time to “never say never” but we do, but to make another mistake by following through on something said in ignorance is no way to live.  Words have power which why one shouldn’t waste them.  Speak wisely.  Gain understanding.

The wise person understands, deciphers and adjust his or her words and decisions as new knowledge is acquired.  In other words, it’s okay to say one thing based on your knowledge and even perception at that time and it’s equally okay if not responsible to admin one’s thoughts based on better understanding or additional knowledge.  Simply stated if you have never change, altered your thoughts; maybe you have not challenged your mind and that alone is a scary thought.

Words matter, use them carefully, be mature enough to change them add to them, revisit your previous thoughts and correct them.  Too many people are doing things, holding fast to ideas, concepts and thoughts spoken from ignorance before he or she had experience to match the words that they were speaking.  Don’t make current decisions chasing words of your past without revisiting them.

KG