I WAS WRONG

The three most freeing words in the world!  These three words are hard to say, difficult to hear and almost impossible for a person to sit in them!  SIT? Ummmm hmmmm!  Words are powerful, they are lasting, they are continual, they are deliberate, they are kind, mean, ugly, hurtful, truthful and untruthful but words are a person’s thoughts at some point in his or her life.  Words spoken mean everything!  When a person takes the time to communicate how he or she feels (especially a ‘he’) then know that these words aren’t fly-by-night, they are a reflection of thoughts past and maybe present. Words spoken never stop speaking!  You cannot unsay something that has been said.  Now you may want to be forgiven for it, and may regret how it makes one feel but that person will never forget what they heard.

To understand how words make one feel, you have to sit in them!  That means instead of saying words, apologizing or not apologizing so you can move past it; stop and sit in their sit of hearing. Put yourself in that person does mindset; which means walking a mile in their shoes, know what they felt or how impactful what you said was, all the things that were going on with them other than dealing with what was said by you, understanding their past hurt and how certain words become triggers for them. If you can allow your mind to be selfless for thirty (30) minutes, to complete eliminate the thought of why you said what you said, to eliminate the justification for yourself and sit in the place of the person you spoke to harmful words to, I wonder how that would impact the things you say and do.  Hmmmmm That’s powerful isn’t it?!  WORDS ARE POWERFUL! Often we don’t think about them enough before speaking them or typing them to another which leads us to the focus of this blog, the three most freeing words in the world!

I WAS WRONG!  Notice that it’s only three words, not four which is more popular; I was wrong, but! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If a person can sit his or herself in these three words, it would change him or her completely.  I’m a living witness! When you just accept that you were wrong, you have no idea how powerful and freeing that is!  It doesn’t matter what or who you were wrong about, just saying I was wrong!  Now, as you sit in those words, it is your healing, your deliverance to gain power by understanding why and how you went wrong!  HOWEVER, it is not your responsibility to explain or justify that to the individuals or people you wronged! Accept your responsibility publicly! LEARN & GROW FROM IT, PRIVATELY!  This journey isn’t overnight! It’s a work in progress and process! You’ll learn in stages, steps and intervals!  You won’t do an overnight thing! So trying to explain to people ‘why’ tends to remove the focus from you to them! NOT FAIR TO THEM AND NOT FAIR TO YOU!  When you begin to talk or amend before the journey is complete, you will repeat the offenses!! The key to admitting these three words to yourself is to remove the block you have on learning or changing your thoughts, patterns, ideas, concepts that are not working in your life!  Mike Murdock says it like so; “your belief system will not change until it cannot produce something you need”. Many are the people who feel the need to prove their way or method is right instead of changing it when they see that it isn’t working! To adopt another method, to change their current method would mean……they were wrong!  The inability to say these words, personally or publicly is the reason we continue to raise older people instead of developing Elders who are capable of passing on their wisdom to others!

Review 2018, BEFORE YOU BEGIN SHOUTING, YELLING & DECLARING PROSPERITY FOR 2019, review your actions!  Check out your thoughts, your ideas, your patterns, and see where you went wrong and how it can be corrected, amended, changed. If you see no errors then what happened to your new year?!  If you didn’t meet goals in 2018, why or why didn’t you?

Say the words, sit in them and GROW!

 

~The power of your destiny is never in the hands of others ~ Kimberly Guy